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WHY PEOPLE CANNOT BE ALONE?

People fear the word, lonely. Always remember that, we are born alone and will go alone. The more companionships indeed make their lives merrier but one day, people will still prefer to be on their own. When people are bored, they need each other. But when people are busy, they are not with each other. It is to remind us to cherish each other, because nothing last forever. People get together because fate bought them together. Fate can also bought them to be with someone else. This is known as open or sharing. It is not easy to find someone with one friend or none. If you have lesser, it means you understand life better than everyone else.

You don't have to feel sad, just because you have less or none. God gave us less, but more is man made.

SHARE YOUR C SECTION EXPERIENCE

On the 8th December of 2023, I had my first c section while carrying a baby boy. Due to thyroid, I cannot proceed to natural birth for safety purposes. The experience I felt, is painless and side effects are only constipation and itchiness. You will expect heavy bleeding for the next few days, then it will become lighter depending on your health. We named him TAN EN MING EN is to be grateful and MING is to be smart. He is born as a Chinese Citizen, have jaundice so need to stay under the blue light for a week before we take him home. We are happy that he is born well, and hope that he will grow up to be a wonderful man. Some photos to share.

Scenery

Just us

Medication

Hospital Food

Three of us

Little En Ming

Say hi to my husband, Alex.

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DESCRIBE YOUR LIFE?

I live a very simple life, and found my husband at work. Dated one year, got married and had a baby boy. I don't believe in fooling around because there is this thing called disease. I am a COVID NEGATIVE and proud of it. However, I have thyroid as my mom's side have it. Mommy said, not to get angry or it will grow bigger on my throat area. Also, I control my food intake and hardly take cold drinks. I need to look after my health now as I have a family to take care. I do not have friends or relatives, which makes my life peaceful. I enjoy art, and spending time with loved ones.

I am happy with my life now, as long as loved ones are happy and safe and will continue working on my dreams. ♥

IS IT OKAY TO BE ALONE DURING FESTIVALS?

Almost certainly. Just like in some countries, they do not celebrate Christmas. Festivals are meant for people who believe in their own traditions and have large group of people. But for small families, every day is just like festivals. People are busy, therefore they need festivals to make time for each other. Being born in a small family, we are used to being on our own instead of being in the crowd. To us, everyday is basically just the same. You don't need to feel lonely just because everyone has their own group as next year, they may not be the same group of people.

Just continue to be on your own, as people may outgrow each other.

PEOPLE DON'T HAVE TO LIKE YOU

In life, we don't live to please people. We don't need to fit in to feel love and wanted. We don't need to be fake, in order to get accepted by the society. We can go according to our own pace, wear comfortably and be happy on our own. You need them to survive is because you need to get your goals. But, you don't need them if you can control on your own. Leave people as it is, as they are and you will feel that they may want your attention more. It is better to attract than to chase.

If you need people to like you, it means you like being in a spotlight and getting unwanted attention. You may not get peace in your life because not everyone is real. Just be yourself, and you will see who is true to you.

Lots Of Hugs, Aeris Tan